Does Better Sleep Promote a Better Relationship?
We all need more sleep. Lack of sleep can negatively impact your memory, mood, job performance, stamina, and physical health. Here’s one more reason to get a good night’s rest: better sleep can promote a better relationship with your spouse.
Check out these three specific ways lack of sleep can impact relationships—and what to do about it.
Lack of sleep wreaks havoc on your emotions
The problem: When you’re sleep-deprived, the part of your brain that controls emotions-the amygdala-doesn’t function properly. This could cause you to overreact to a minor disagreement, which can lead to more conflict. On the other end of the spectrum, you might not notice your spouse’s emotions at all, potentially leaving your loved one feeling ignored or neglected.
The solution: The next time you find yourself getting easily irritated or impatient with your spouse, take a minute to think about how you’ve been sleeping lately. Chances are you’ve been sleeping poorly, and the simple realization of that fact may help diffuse the situation. Also, if you need to have a serious conversation with your spouse, then be sure to wait until you’re both well rested. You’ll have an increased ability to listen and concentrate.
Lack of sleep increases risk of illness
The problem: It’s well-documented that insufficient sleep increases your risk of health issues like diabetes, obesity, and heart disease. But lack of sleep also depresses your immune system, which means you’re more likely to catch a cold or flu. Getting sick frequently means you’re confined to bed feeling miserable and not spending quality time with your partner. Also, your partner may develop resentments if the lion’s share of the housework and childcare falls to him or her due to you being out of commission.
The solution: Make a promise to each other that you’ll develop healthy habits to keep the cold and flu at bay. This includes washing your hands often, eating plenty of fruits and vegetables, being physically active, staying hydrated, and, of course, aiming for at least 8 hours of shut-eye per night.
Lack of sleep decreases time for connection
The problem: Most couples choose to forgo sleep to be able to spend time together. While they have good intentions, that plan never works. Inevitably, the couple becomes sleep deprived and they focus more on themselves and their tiredness than spending time with each other.
The solution: Make bedtime a time to connect. Try going to bed 30 to 45 minutes before you’d like to be sleeping. Use that time to do something relaxing with your spouse. You can listen to soft music, meditate together, cuddle, read, or even have a little quiet conversation. Avoid watching TV or using electronic devices. Alternatively, you can agree to wake up a little earlier so you can start the day with each other in a relaxed, comfortable way.
For the next three weeks, commit to getting 8 hours of sleep per night, and spending at least 30 minutes relaxing with your partner before you fall asleep. If you’re consistent, you’ll find that you’ll be less irritated, less distracted, more patient, more communicative, and more fun to be around. You really can sleep your way to a better relationship!
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